Hey everyone! I know I just wrote a blog a few days ago, but now I have a little more I REALLY want to share!
Wow, it feels like this year is flying by! Summer seems like its going to be over tomorrow, yet there's another month until Monster will begin first grade, Monkey will start preschool & Beast will be 3 months old!!! I can hardly believe how much life has changed for the better this year.
Matt & I have definitely made "us" a priority. We've never been so in love, so focused on our family, or so driven to make our lives what we've always dreamed. It's so easy to let ourselves get lost in the day to day happenings & forget to fall in love daily.
This week, we took a WONDERFUL class @ church while the girls enjoyed W.o.W (which is VBS on speed, LOL). Thanks so much to Marty & Debbie for all their love, support, and guidance. I look forward to implementing the information & tools they shared. Our family WILL be transformed in the Spirit. No one will bring us to their level.
We know that God will never put us in any situation we can not handle. He knows our strengths, our weaknesses, and everything in between. He gives us challenges to strengthen our soul, not to weaken our spirit. We will seek his guidance above all & let his wisdom direct our path.
This year will bring new challenges, uncharted territory, and unforseen "LIFE" moments. I know that He will impress upon our hearts the right decisions. I can only hope that we are listening enough to hear them. We've been trusting our worldy knowledge & have been put through enough to break us. I am HAPPY to admit we've been broken down, beaten, bruised, and are dying in this world. The next step is obvious.
Proverbs 3:5-6
5 Trust in the LORD with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will direct your paths.
We appreciate all your love & support!
Friday, July 24, 2009
Saturday, July 18, 2009
A Midsummer's Update
Hey everyone! We've been so busy lately, but I finally have a little "downtime" while Beast sleeps & Matt spends some daddy/daughter time with Monster & monkey!
Here's a little update:
Monster LOVED kindergarten, but is ready for FIRST GRADE which will start in about a month. She'll even be going to her first sleep-away camp for 4 days in August with our church. I can't believe how much she's grown this year in every way! She is 4 ft tall, can READ (OMG), write stories, and so much more! Daisies has stretched her imagination, brought her out of her shell, and made her so much more confident. Her Faith in God is growing in leaps & bounds. In fact, we just presented her with her first "big girl" Bible! It is a "princess" Bible (daughter of the King) which is magenta & has her name & a tiny butterfly embossed on it (both silver). Matt, myself, and her grandparents each wrote her a short message in it. We talked about the importance of a Bible and how we need to respect it. She can't wait to take it (and her "2 new swimsuits") to camp!
Monkey is now 4! She has more attitude than me (which I didn't believe was possible, LOL) and isn't afraid to speak her mind. Be careful what you wish for peeps! HaHa-she's wonderful! She is still small, but you'd never guess that through her actions & words. She thinks she is "all grown up" and refuses to be "babied." I'm thankful for that, but I wish she'd let us do a little more for a little longer. I hate to see her grow up so quickly. She'll be starting preschool this fall. Three half days per week will give her some structure & me a little one-on-one time with Kamrynn (or some time for my job as PTA secretary). I'll miss her, but it will be good for both of us!
Beast is growing like I can't believe! She's already holding her head up on her own, scooting around, and has so many pre-verbal cues! She is finally out of newborn diapers & may be up to 8 lbs. We'll see at her next appt! She has the most intoxicating little giggle (even in her sleep) and she smiles so brightly! She is a VERY healthy eater. So much that I have trouble keeping up with her sometimes, LOL. Her sisters are so great with her. They even argue over whose turn it is to help, even if it is just to get a wipe out of the container! I love to watch how they smile at her with love in their eyes & Beast's reaction is priceless!
Matt & I celebrated our four year wedding anniversary in July & I couldn't believe it. At times, it feels like we've been together forever. Then others, its like it was just yesterday we were spending a few cold October hours in IHOP after an ERHS football game just catching up. I love him more everyday. "Life" has definitely gotten in the way sometimes, but we've learned how to push things out of our minds & just BE when we are together. I can't imagine life without him & my girls. I am so thankful that the roads we took (no matter how hard & how wrong they seemed at the time) led us to where we are now. Our decisions have made us who we are & I wouldn't change one!
I hope everyone is having a great summer!
Here's a little update:
Monster LOVED kindergarten, but is ready for FIRST GRADE which will start in about a month. She'll even be going to her first sleep-away camp for 4 days in August with our church. I can't believe how much she's grown this year in every way! She is 4 ft tall, can READ (OMG), write stories, and so much more! Daisies has stretched her imagination, brought her out of her shell, and made her so much more confident. Her Faith in God is growing in leaps & bounds. In fact, we just presented her with her first "big girl" Bible! It is a "princess" Bible (daughter of the King) which is magenta & has her name & a tiny butterfly embossed on it (both silver). Matt, myself, and her grandparents each wrote her a short message in it. We talked about the importance of a Bible and how we need to respect it. She can't wait to take it (and her "2 new swimsuits") to camp!
Monkey is now 4! She has more attitude than me (which I didn't believe was possible, LOL) and isn't afraid to speak her mind. Be careful what you wish for peeps! HaHa-she's wonderful! She is still small, but you'd never guess that through her actions & words. She thinks she is "all grown up" and refuses to be "babied." I'm thankful for that, but I wish she'd let us do a little more for a little longer. I hate to see her grow up so quickly. She'll be starting preschool this fall. Three half days per week will give her some structure & me a little one-on-one time with Kamrynn (or some time for my job as PTA secretary). I'll miss her, but it will be good for both of us!
Beast is growing like I can't believe! She's already holding her head up on her own, scooting around, and has so many pre-verbal cues! She is finally out of newborn diapers & may be up to 8 lbs. We'll see at her next appt! She has the most intoxicating little giggle (even in her sleep) and she smiles so brightly! She is a VERY healthy eater. So much that I have trouble keeping up with her sometimes, LOL. Her sisters are so great with her. They even argue over whose turn it is to help, even if it is just to get a wipe out of the container! I love to watch how they smile at her with love in their eyes & Beast's reaction is priceless!
Matt & I celebrated our four year wedding anniversary in July & I couldn't believe it. At times, it feels like we've been together forever. Then others, its like it was just yesterday we were spending a few cold October hours in IHOP after an ERHS football game just catching up. I love him more everyday. "Life" has definitely gotten in the way sometimes, but we've learned how to push things out of our minds & just BE when we are together. I can't imagine life without him & my girls. I am so thankful that the roads we took (no matter how hard & how wrong they seemed at the time) led us to where we are now. Our decisions have made us who we are & I wouldn't change one!
I hope everyone is having a great summer!
Sunday, May 24, 2009
The Beast Has Arrived!
Hey Everyone! Baby Beast joined our family on Friday May 22 @ 5:17pm. She was a whopping 6 lbs. 3 oz., 19 inches long. After two weeks of contractions, she DEFINITELY made an entrance into this world! Long story short as possible:
I'd been dilated up to 3 sm for the last few weeks. Thursday evening/Friday am "real" contractions began, so we made our way to the birth center (an hour from home). I was still only at a 4 after 3 hours, so @ 1:30pm we made the decision to come home and wait a while before we would return to the birth center. At 5:00, I knew we had to leave. As I stood up to get ready, my water broke. I felt intense pressure and with the next contraction, I yelled for Matt to call an ambulance because there was no way I would make it to the brth center. I made it to the bathroom & with the next contraction, I delivered her myself while Matt was on the phone with EMS. Matt tied off her umbilical cord with his shoe string & wrapped us in towel. So, the entire Climax Fire Department (including my HS colorguard instructor's husband that I have known for 12 years) arrived, then EMS. So, needless to say, her first vehicle ride was in an ambulance!!! We spent the night at Randolph hospital to get checked out. Mom & baby are both doing great! Her big sisters were a little scared by her amazing arrival, but are completely smitten with her! I think Monster will pet her skin off if we don't watch her, LOL!
Healthy visitors are welcome...all others, phone calls would be GREAT!
I'd been dilated up to 3 sm for the last few weeks. Thursday evening/Friday am "real" contractions began, so we made our way to the birth center (an hour from home). I was still only at a 4 after 3 hours, so @ 1:30pm we made the decision to come home and wait a while before we would return to the birth center. At 5:00, I knew we had to leave. As I stood up to get ready, my water broke. I felt intense pressure and with the next contraction, I yelled for Matt to call an ambulance because there was no way I would make it to the brth center. I made it to the bathroom & with the next contraction, I delivered her myself while Matt was on the phone with EMS. Matt tied off her umbilical cord with his shoe string & wrapped us in towel. So, the entire Climax Fire Department (including my HS colorguard instructor's husband that I have known for 12 years) arrived, then EMS. So, needless to say, her first vehicle ride was in an ambulance!!! We spent the night at Randolph hospital to get checked out. Mom & baby are both doing great! Her big sisters were a little scared by her amazing arrival, but are completely smitten with her! I think Monster will pet her skin off if we don't watch her, LOL!
Healthy visitors are welcome...all others, phone calls would be GREAT!
Monday, April 6, 2009
Just thought my friends would LOVE to read this! Isn't it hillarious. I would let you guys know the myspace ID it came from (and the stalker ex), but it really doesn't matter. My friends don't fight my battles. In response to “friend”, you (and anyone else) are WELCOME to stop reading my blogs any time.
"HRC's Friend's" message to me:
Hello "IMPERFECT PERFECTION" and the wonderful, untouchable person that you think you are! In regards to you blog post that apparently you want everyone to read or else you'd have your page private (like most parents with kids and all the drama you claim to have would)! You claim that HRC is the one who creates all the drama in your life but I have come to believe that someone like you feeds off of it! First of all being one of HRC's best friends I do not think very highly of the fact that you post such mean bull shit about my friend on your page almost daily! Do you feel like you have to post every part of your life bc your not important enough for someone/anyone to ask what's been going on with you? Or are you that popular in your own mind that you think the whole world gives a shit?? And in response to your blog yes MONSTER does live with you which I think was the biggest mistake ever made in a court room ever ever ever!! That little girl should be with her REAL MOMMY and not with people who have to lie about a black eye and then not only be coward enough to have to write it in a letter instead of looking a mother in her face and telling her what really happened to HER little girl but you were worried enough about what everyone else thought that you had to defend yourself on Myspace of all places to air your dirty laundry!!! And as far as calling her a HEFFER have you looked in the mirror? you make two of her and one of me put together and that's pre baby!! Watch what you say about my friend BC there are poeple right behind her instead of like yourself who has no one bc your a waste of life!! You really must be a miserable person bc the only person you have to talk to and that will listen is your keyboard and that's bc you have total control over it like you try to have with everyone else!! Well it was the highlight of my day to tell you what a turd you are wait it's only 4 in the morning I'm sure something better than you has got to happen today if not I'd be as lonley as you!! I can't wait to see what you have to blog about now!! I'd love to tell you what a wonderful great person, mother, and wife you are but I'd be lying like the reason for MONSTER's black eye!! I hope you treat your other kids better than you do her or do you just have them brain washed as well? Ok well I have much better things to do bye bye love!!
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My reply:
"Daily? I post about her daily? WOW! That’s great for her, considering I post blogs once or twice a week. I wonder how often she checks my page in her copious amounts of spare time.
I post to my blog because I have friends all over the country. I grew up in CA & am still friends with people I have known my entire life. I have plenty of people to talk to in person, but thanks for your concern. By the way, were you trying to threaten me with the “watch out” comment?
As to my weight, I have nothing to prove. Pre-baby I was a very happy and healthy 190 and have only gained 14 lbs. So, unless she is 45 lbs. & you a mere 90, then no, I am not two of her plus one of you. But thanks.
WOW, as to the "black eye" anyone who wants to see a picture of it can email me. I have pics of her face ALL day at her Easter party @ school. We didn’t try to hide it. The only reason we sent HRC an email about OUR little girl is because we didn’t want to sit in the parking lot talking to her at the exchange, especially with the way it has been raining lately. We don't need to lie. It was an accident and we don't have to account to HRC or anyone else. If she has a problem, she can call social services and take the pictures she took in her mother-in-law’s bathroom to report it. Let them investigate yet another FALSE claim by her and further prove what a psycho she is. (isn't that the most HORRIBLE "black eye"....riiiiiiight)
Monster is right where she is supposed to be. No other explanation necessary. There are 36 cited reasons (and countless others) in the order as to why she is here with us. You weren’t even there. She is with her Daddy & Mommy here just as much as she is with her Mommy & Daddy when she is with them. So, if she wants to talk “real” then we’ll talk who is REALLY here for Monster. That’s right, Matt & myself.
Let me just say, THANKS for being the highlight of your morning. At 4 am, I was sleeping because I have a beautiful kindergartner & a gorgeous 3 yr old to be with in the morning as well as a growing girl to keep healthy. I was not worrying about my best friend’s ex-husband’s wife’s blog. Who’s the one without a life? Shouldn’t you be worrying with your baby girl, not me? Maybe you should spend some time with a dictionary & thesarus as well as fixing your run-on sentences and grammatical errors.
My husband will be contacting HRC regarding any issues as well as our attorney & I will be blocking you. Have a great day."
So, um, yeah - can you say crazy? This is only a small snapshot of what we deal with daily.
"HRC's Friend's" message to me:
Hello "IMPERFECT PERFECTION" and the wonderful, untouchable person that you think you are! In regards to you blog post that apparently you want everyone to read or else you'd have your page private (like most parents with kids and all the drama you claim to have would)! You claim that HRC is the one who creates all the drama in your life but I have come to believe that someone like you feeds off of it! First of all being one of HRC's best friends I do not think very highly of the fact that you post such mean bull shit about my friend on your page almost daily! Do you feel like you have to post every part of your life bc your not important enough for someone/anyone to ask what's been going on with you? Or are you that popular in your own mind that you think the whole world gives a shit?? And in response to your blog yes MONSTER does live with you which I think was the biggest mistake ever made in a court room ever ever ever!! That little girl should be with her REAL MOMMY and not with people who have to lie about a black eye and then not only be coward enough to have to write it in a letter instead of looking a mother in her face and telling her what really happened to HER little girl but you were worried enough about what everyone else thought that you had to defend yourself on Myspace of all places to air your dirty laundry!!! And as far as calling her a HEFFER have you looked in the mirror? you make two of her and one of me put together and that's pre baby!! Watch what you say about my friend BC there are poeple right behind her instead of like yourself who has no one bc your a waste of life!! You really must be a miserable person bc the only person you have to talk to and that will listen is your keyboard and that's bc you have total control over it like you try to have with everyone else!! Well it was the highlight of my day to tell you what a turd you are wait it's only 4 in the morning I'm sure something better than you has got to happen today if not I'd be as lonley as you!! I can't wait to see what you have to blog about now!! I'd love to tell you what a wonderful great person, mother, and wife you are but I'd be lying like the reason for MONSTER's black eye!! I hope you treat your other kids better than you do her or do you just have them brain washed as well? Ok well I have much better things to do bye bye love!!
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My reply:
"Daily? I post about her daily? WOW! That’s great for her, considering I post blogs once or twice a week. I wonder how often she checks my page in her copious amounts of spare time.
I post to my blog because I have friends all over the country. I grew up in CA & am still friends with people I have known my entire life. I have plenty of people to talk to in person, but thanks for your concern. By the way, were you trying to threaten me with the “watch out” comment?
As to my weight, I have nothing to prove. Pre-baby I was a very happy and healthy 190 and have only gained 14 lbs. So, unless she is 45 lbs. & you a mere 90, then no, I am not two of her plus one of you. But thanks.
WOW, as to the "black eye" anyone who wants to see a picture of it can email me. I have pics of her face ALL day at her Easter party @ school. We didn’t try to hide it. The only reason we sent HRC an email about OUR little girl is because we didn’t want to sit in the parking lot talking to her at the exchange, especially with the way it has been raining lately. We don't need to lie. It was an accident and we don't have to account to HRC or anyone else. If she has a problem, she can call social services and take the pictures she took in her mother-in-law’s bathroom to report it. Let them investigate yet another FALSE claim by her and further prove what a psycho she is. (isn't that the most HORRIBLE "black eye"....riiiiiiight)
Monster is right where she is supposed to be. No other explanation necessary. There are 36 cited reasons (and countless others) in the order as to why she is here with us. You weren’t even there. She is with her Daddy & Mommy here just as much as she is with her Mommy & Daddy when she is with them. So, if she wants to talk “real” then we’ll talk who is REALLY here for Monster. That’s right, Matt & myself.
Let me just say, THANKS for being the highlight of your morning. At 4 am, I was sleeping because I have a beautiful kindergartner & a gorgeous 3 yr old to be with in the morning as well as a growing girl to keep healthy. I was not worrying about my best friend’s ex-husband’s wife’s blog. Who’s the one without a life? Shouldn’t you be worrying with your baby girl, not me? Maybe you should spend some time with a dictionary & thesarus as well as fixing your run-on sentences and grammatical errors.
My husband will be contacting HRC regarding any issues as well as our attorney & I will be blocking you. Have a great day."
So, um, yeah - can you say crazy? This is only a small snapshot of what we deal with daily.
Sunday, April 5, 2009
Sunday, Sunday, Sunday!
WOW! Busy weekend for sure, but wondermous!
Thursday was Monster's school dance. (She almost didn't get to go because of some classwork being unfinished, but we worked hard!) Let me just say...AWW, how cute! Those K-2 kids dance more than the middle schoolers. I was in charge of taking pics for PTO & Matt danced with his girls. PRECIOUS!
Then I had my MK meeting later that night. WOO HOO! It was great to see "my girlz" and have some me time. When I got home, Monster was laying in my bed with ice on her face & I could've killed Matt. Apparently, Monster thought that playing in my makeup would be a "good choice." When he went to check on her after her shower, she was covered in it. He had no clue what was all over her and she wouldn't tell him. She tried to "escape" (LOL) and hide her face, and his hand/ebow came straight across her left eye/cheek. OMGosh, she had a pretty good bruise. (of course, this weekend HRC told her it was on puropse because daddy is mean...whatever crazy heiffer...if you have to tear down Matt to make yourself feel better, go ahead, we know the truth. That's why she lives HERE thank you very much!)
Friday, I was with Monster's class all day. They had Easter crafts, pizza, and an egg hunt. Those kids were like crazy little animals, but it was so much fun!
Monkey spent the night w/Granny & Matt was working, so I enjoyed some quiet time alone! It was nice to have some "morning time" with Matt when he got home too.
Both girls had games Saturday. They had a blast & did so well! Matt's parents & Steven were able to make it...plus Andrew & Brittany came in from Franklin! They had their own little cheering section.
Monster hit from the first two pitches EVERY time! Not so bad for only having 2 practices because of rain! She still kinda skips from base to base, but at least its a faster skip this year, LOL. Although, it wouldn't really matter. There aren't "winners" in their age groups this year. It makes the games even more fun to watch. No screaming parents, no one trying to fight over an out, the kids just have fun & play ball. Now, I'm not one of those parents who thinks "everyone should win." I think a little competition is GREAT for kids. However, kids ages 3-6 should be given the opportunity to really LEARN and enjoy ball before they have to worry about scoring.
Monkey was too cute, as always! She doesn't hit very far, but runs like a tasmanian devil! We like to call it "bunting." LOL She wasn't catching any balls, but she FINALLY decided that ONE BALL was going to be hers. She actually elbowed a boy twice her size when he tried to get in front of her for it! No, it wasn't ok, but it was hillarious. Even the boy's mom was yelling "You get that ball Monkeygirl." She's definitely not one to be pushed around (that's my girl!) Now, if I can find a way to make her hat fit without it giving her an egghead.
Of course, there couldn't be one day without drama. HRC had to mark her territory with Monster's AWANA teacher, of all people. I mean, this woman has known Ashley (and us) for almost 4 years and she was just saying hi. All Monster did was ask if her teacher had seen us. When the teacher said she hadn't seen her "mommy and daddy" I guess HRC felt that she needed to make sure that she KNEW that Monster was HERS, not mine, in a pretty rude way.
But, the sad part is that the AWANA teacher already knew. Most people do. Ya see, we don't hide the fact that Ashley is not my biological child like she thinks we do. (especially when she looks like she did Staurday...OMG, comb your child's hair and put clean socks of her own - not your dirty ones - on her....gross!) How else would we explain to her church teachers that she isn't there every other Sunday? We just leave her at home??? RIIIIGHT!
Monster even asked "mommy, why was "HRC" so mean to Mrs.X? I like having two mommies and two daddies. isn't that ok?" Isn't that sad? She is such a smart girl & I can't wait to see when the lightbulb finally clicks and she speaks her mind freely. I'm sure we're all in for an earfull! (and just a sidenote...what do you think the crazy heiffer who SWEARS she gave up smoking because it is "bad" and Monster has allergies was doing when we walked up...YEP, that's right, puff puff puffaroo! What a GREAT example for your children.
Enough of that (smacks hand)...
Today was the White's Memorial Community Egg Hunt & it was a perfect day for it! I'm sure I got more sun than I needed, but it was better than the rain we've had the last two years. Monkey got about 8 prize eggs. She picked out a basket for herself & then asked if she could get one for Monster & Beast. She also picked out games and toys that she & Monster could share. (isn't that sweet...I am so proud of her!) We won't have Monster for Easter this year, but I'm sure the Easter Bunny will leave her basket filled to the top just like the rest of ours as he always does.
Beast has been especially active this week. I LOVE IT, but I wish she'd pick better times. Thanks for the comments & messages about her 4-D scan! If you haven't seen them, check them out! It is amazing how clear they are!
Hope everyone has a great week! I know we will. Matt took Wednesday & Thursday night off, so he'll be off ALL WEEK!
See ya later alligators!
Thursday was Monster's school dance. (She almost didn't get to go because of some classwork being unfinished, but we worked hard!) Let me just say...AWW, how cute! Those K-2 kids dance more than the middle schoolers. I was in charge of taking pics for PTO & Matt danced with his girls. PRECIOUS!
Then I had my MK meeting later that night. WOO HOO! It was great to see "my girlz" and have some me time. When I got home, Monster was laying in my bed with ice on her face & I could've killed Matt. Apparently, Monster thought that playing in my makeup would be a "good choice." When he went to check on her after her shower, she was covered in it. He had no clue what was all over her and she wouldn't tell him. She tried to "escape" (LOL) and hide her face, and his hand/ebow came straight across her left eye/cheek. OMGosh, she had a pretty good bruise. (of course, this weekend HRC told her it was on puropse because daddy is mean...whatever crazy heiffer...if you have to tear down Matt to make yourself feel better, go ahead, we know the truth. That's why she lives HERE thank you very much!)
Friday, I was with Monster's class all day. They had Easter crafts, pizza, and an egg hunt. Those kids were like crazy little animals, but it was so much fun!
Monkey spent the night w/Granny & Matt was working, so I enjoyed some quiet time alone! It was nice to have some "morning time" with Matt when he got home too.
Both girls had games Saturday. They had a blast & did so well! Matt's parents & Steven were able to make it...plus Andrew & Brittany came in from Franklin! They had their own little cheering section.
Monster hit from the first two pitches EVERY time! Not so bad for only having 2 practices because of rain! She still kinda skips from base to base, but at least its a faster skip this year, LOL. Although, it wouldn't really matter. There aren't "winners" in their age groups this year. It makes the games even more fun to watch. No screaming parents, no one trying to fight over an out, the kids just have fun & play ball. Now, I'm not one of those parents who thinks "everyone should win." I think a little competition is GREAT for kids. However, kids ages 3-6 should be given the opportunity to really LEARN and enjoy ball before they have to worry about scoring.
Monkey was too cute, as always! She doesn't hit very far, but runs like a tasmanian devil! We like to call it "bunting." LOL She wasn't catching any balls, but she FINALLY decided that ONE BALL was going to be hers. She actually elbowed a boy twice her size when he tried to get in front of her for it! No, it wasn't ok, but it was hillarious. Even the boy's mom was yelling "You get that ball Monkeygirl." She's definitely not one to be pushed around (that's my girl!) Now, if I can find a way to make her hat fit without it giving her an egghead.
Of course, there couldn't be one day without drama. HRC had to mark her territory with Monster's AWANA teacher, of all people. I mean, this woman has known Ashley (and us) for almost 4 years and she was just saying hi. All Monster did was ask if her teacher had seen us. When the teacher said she hadn't seen her "mommy and daddy" I guess HRC felt that she needed to make sure that she KNEW that Monster was HERS, not mine, in a pretty rude way.
But, the sad part is that the AWANA teacher already knew. Most people do. Ya see, we don't hide the fact that Ashley is not my biological child like she thinks we do. (especially when she looks like she did Staurday...OMG, comb your child's hair and put clean socks of her own - not your dirty ones - on her....gross!) How else would we explain to her church teachers that she isn't there every other Sunday? We just leave her at home??? RIIIIGHT!
Monster even asked "mommy, why was "HRC" so mean to Mrs.X? I like having two mommies and two daddies. isn't that ok?" Isn't that sad? She is such a smart girl & I can't wait to see when the lightbulb finally clicks and she speaks her mind freely. I'm sure we're all in for an earfull! (and just a sidenote...what do you think the crazy heiffer who SWEARS she gave up smoking because it is "bad" and Monster has allergies was doing when we walked up...YEP, that's right, puff puff puffaroo! What a GREAT example for your children.
Enough of that (smacks hand)...
Today was the White's Memorial Community Egg Hunt & it was a perfect day for it! I'm sure I got more sun than I needed, but it was better than the rain we've had the last two years. Monkey got about 8 prize eggs. She picked out a basket for herself & then asked if she could get one for Monster & Beast. She also picked out games and toys that she & Monster could share. (isn't that sweet...I am so proud of her!) We won't have Monster for Easter this year, but I'm sure the Easter Bunny will leave her basket filled to the top just like the rest of ours as he always does.
Beast has been especially active this week. I LOVE IT, but I wish she'd pick better times. Thanks for the comments & messages about her 4-D scan! If you haven't seen them, check them out! It is amazing how clear they are!
Hope everyone has a great week! I know we will. Matt took Wednesday & Thursday night off, so he'll be off ALL WEEK!
See ya later alligators!
Wednesday, April 1, 2009
Today is Wednesday!
Today is Wednesday, Today is Wednesday, Wednesday ZOOOP, Tuesday Spaghetti, Monday String Beans, All you hungyry children come & eat it up, come & eat it up, COME & EAT IT UUUUUUUUUUUUP! LOL, anyone ever read Eric Carle's Today is Monday? It's a great book, but an even better song! Anyway, thought I'd fill everyone in on the latest.
We had our BC appt Thursday. The Beast is growing right on schedule. Monster helped our midwife use the doppler to find her heartbeat. Monkey was still a little unsure, she always thinks it hurts me. I love our BC & can't imagine pre-natal care or delivery any other way. It is the best to be be able to share every moment we choose to with our family.
Then, Friday...(drumroll) WE HAD OUR 4-D SCAN! WOW! That's all I can say...yeah right! It was amazing, beautiful, and magical. I thought that everyone else would be in another room, but their viewing area was in there with me! So Monkey sat by my head and Monster had to be right by my tummy watching every move. She even tried to "help" the tech on the computer (oops). Monkey kept laughing and saying "Mommy look, its baby Beast and she's so tiny, I LOVE HER" & it really helped her connect! Monster was laughing and jumping around. She even sang her a song to get her moving a little better. (Beast already loves music!) my mother in law cried, of course. They all want me to have her now, but I think we'll wait a little while longer (hopefully).
Beast cooperated SO well. I had to reposition a few times to get her to turn her face toward us, but the images were as clear as they could be! I guess all that H2O I had to drink really helped. She smiled, she sucked her fingers (and toes), and she even WAVED! The funniest thing was when she used her hands to cover her face when she was "done." I can't WAIT to meet her in person! I think she's going to round out our household perfectly! Of course, we'll have to build Matt a "man hut" in a few years to escape to, but he's loving every minute of his dress wearing, princess loving, pink and purple little girls' lives!
Of course, it rained ALL week, so the girls games were cancelled last Saturday (BOO), but they still had their pics taken. They were sooo cute! Their games were rescheduled for THIS Saturday, so we'll be out all afternoon. OMGosh, Monkey's shirt is ginormous on her. I hope I can shrink it a little. She's the only girl on her team & is spoiled by the other mom's. They fawn all over her & her pink equipment, LOL!!!
Sunday afternoon & all day Monday, I cleaned & organized! The girls even helped. Mosnter is obsessed with helping me out right now. I don't know who is "nesting" more, me or her! She has made it her job to help me with all the laundry. I think she'd do it herself if she could reach in the wash machine. She learned how to pair socks & I thought she was going to cry when they were all done. I know that one day I'll be forcing her to do it, so I'm enjoying it while it lasts.
We put all the fall/winter clothes in totes in the attic, went through all the Spring/Summer totes to see what fits who this year, and then came the fun part: THE BABY TOTE!!! WOOHOO! So bittersweet. I have thouroughly enjoyed this pregnancy & don't want to end the closeness I feel w/Beast. At the same time, I can't wait for her to be here in our lives so I can share her with the world!
I can't believe it, but Mosnter will be SIX in a month! Where has time gone? It seems like just yesterday I was meeting her for the first time @ Steven's basketball game. She was only 6 months old. She has grown into such a smart & beautiful little girl. While I know I didn't create her physically, I have shaped her in many other ways. We are so proud of her and and can't wait to see what she brings to the world in the future! She decided that she wanted a special "big girl" party with about five of her friends this year instead of a big "family" party. So, she'll have her party with friends. Then we'll be have a small family dinner for us & grandparents on her actual bday.
Hope everyone has a great week! I'll catch ya later...XOXO
We had our BC appt Thursday. The Beast is growing right on schedule. Monster helped our midwife use the doppler to find her heartbeat. Monkey was still a little unsure, she always thinks it hurts me. I love our BC & can't imagine pre-natal care or delivery any other way. It is the best to be be able to share every moment we choose to with our family.
Then, Friday...(drumroll) WE HAD OUR 4-D SCAN! WOW! That's all I can say...yeah right! It was amazing, beautiful, and magical. I thought that everyone else would be in another room, but their viewing area was in there with me! So Monkey sat by my head and Monster had to be right by my tummy watching every move. She even tried to "help" the tech on the computer (oops). Monkey kept laughing and saying "Mommy look, its baby Beast and she's so tiny, I LOVE HER" & it really helped her connect! Monster was laughing and jumping around. She even sang her a song to get her moving a little better. (Beast already loves music!) my mother in law cried, of course. They all want me to have her now, but I think we'll wait a little while longer (hopefully).
Beast cooperated SO well. I had to reposition a few times to get her to turn her face toward us, but the images were as clear as they could be! I guess all that H2O I had to drink really helped. She smiled, she sucked her fingers (and toes), and she even WAVED! The funniest thing was when she used her hands to cover her face when she was "done." I can't WAIT to meet her in person! I think she's going to round out our household perfectly! Of course, we'll have to build Matt a "man hut" in a few years to escape to, but he's loving every minute of his dress wearing, princess loving, pink and purple little girls' lives!
Of course, it rained ALL week, so the girls games were cancelled last Saturday (BOO), but they still had their pics taken. They were sooo cute! Their games were rescheduled for THIS Saturday, so we'll be out all afternoon. OMGosh, Monkey's shirt is ginormous on her. I hope I can shrink it a little. She's the only girl on her team & is spoiled by the other mom's. They fawn all over her & her pink equipment, LOL!!!
Sunday afternoon & all day Monday, I cleaned & organized! The girls even helped. Mosnter is obsessed with helping me out right now. I don't know who is "nesting" more, me or her! She has made it her job to help me with all the laundry. I think she'd do it herself if she could reach in the wash machine. She learned how to pair socks & I thought she was going to cry when they were all done. I know that one day I'll be forcing her to do it, so I'm enjoying it while it lasts.
We put all the fall/winter clothes in totes in the attic, went through all the Spring/Summer totes to see what fits who this year, and then came the fun part: THE BABY TOTE!!! WOOHOO! So bittersweet. I have thouroughly enjoyed this pregnancy & don't want to end the closeness I feel w/Beast. At the same time, I can't wait for her to be here in our lives so I can share her with the world!
I can't believe it, but Mosnter will be SIX in a month! Where has time gone? It seems like just yesterday I was meeting her for the first time @ Steven's basketball game. She was only 6 months old. She has grown into such a smart & beautiful little girl. While I know I didn't create her physically, I have shaped her in many other ways. We are so proud of her and and can't wait to see what she brings to the world in the future! She decided that she wanted a special "big girl" party with about five of her friends this year instead of a big "family" party. So, she'll have her party with friends. Then we'll be have a small family dinner for us & grandparents on her actual bday.
Hope everyone has a great week! I'll catch ya later...XOXO
Sunday, March 22, 2009
Another Update
WOOHOO! It's Sunday night & everything is all right, LOL! Time for a little update for those I can't keep up with every day...I still love you all though!
Last week was very busy, but interesting.
We met w/Ash's counselor & I am happy to say that she is coming along quite well in her confidence. She feels that Ashley is getting better at expressing her feelings instead of holding them in, she is becoming more independent, and making great strides toward being completely comfortable with making her OWN choices. As far as her mother goes, her counselor feels Matt should give her only the information required in the order until she chooses to cooperate like an equal parent in Ashley's life in ALL respects.
She feels sad that Ashley is being punished by not getting to participate on "her" time. She is also concerned about some statements that were recently made by Ashley. Apparently, she overheard her mother saying that she wished Matt would be shot at work & that a stranger would kill me, Mady & the baby. WOW, what a depraved soul! As much as I dislike her, I would never wish her child harm. That is completely unexceptable. Anyway, now Ashley is afraid every time Matt goes to work. We're working on it by letting her call him right before bed & any time she wakes up during the night.
I don't know why her mother thinks Ashley is so unhappy. Then again, maybe it makes her feel better about the situation. I guess we'll never know. Ashley is such a happy girl in all that she does. I wish that she could see that without all the drama, Ashley could be even happier. I mean, wouldn't it be nice if she could feel that she could love both parents without feeling like she is hurting someone? We've made her feel that on our end & it has really changed her perspective. She knows that she is welcome to talk to us about anything, no matter what.
In fact, she loves to talk about her other sister (whose name will not be used here) at her mother's house & how much she is growing. Yeah, she complains that she cries all the time (she's only about a year old & apparently teething), but we explain that she did the same thing when she was little.
Her counselor feels that we are really doing what is best for Ash by giving her the security to express her feelings about BOTH homes without fear of reprimand or redirection. No, I don't love hearing about "them" but it's what Ashley needs that is important & it really only happens on Sun?mon right after we pick her up or other mini-random Ashley moments, LOL. So, we listen & help her process her thoughts a little. Then, we simply change the subject. It is getting much easier and it really is making her transitions much easier.
Her counselor also mentioned that Ashley was bothered by how much her mother was "bugging her about Kamrynn." GEEZ! Come on, can we not have anything that she doesn't interfere with? Yeah, we did ask Ashley not to tell her about OUR baby until we were ready. I don't think there is anything wrong in that. Matt & I wanted to tell our family & friends first. As his ex, she is neither of those two categories. She is the last person that has the right to know. Why should we feel obligated to tell her? Especially after her intrusion and feeling of entitlement with our miscarriage last May. Why she would question a 5 yr old until she cries is beyond me. She could have just asked us if she were that curious. Then again, obviously, when I posted it on myspace it was public knowledge.
Anyway, she also let us know that the craziness on the mother's end will probably get worse before it gets better (of course) because she will try to amp it up when we don't react. Let's hope we can stand our ground.
Enough of that...
Matt & I helped out with Ashley's kindergarten "Spring Madness" day. They explored Paper & Wood. Each of the four classes had a different theme & stations. I got "folding paper into cups & bunnies" while Matt was SUPER LUCKY and got to help them fold 6 different types of paper in half and in half again and again until they couldn't fold it anymore. LOL!!! I made over 70 cups & 70 bunnies during the day, but it was so worth it! It was fun to watch these little brains be amazed that a square piece of paper could be a cup or even a bunny! BTW, I NEVER want to see another paper bunny in my life! J/K
On the baby front...Kamrynn is oh so active! Wow, Mady wasn't ever this wiggly. I love it & yet, I would love a good night's sleep sometime, LOL. I guess that's what naps are for, too bad I have a 3 and a half year old too! Ashley & Mady are waiting intently for their baby sister.
We go for a 4-D ultrasound this Friday & I can't wait! Matt & I will be in one room with the ultrasound tech, while the girls, Angie, my lil sis Becca, my lil bro Robby & his gf are all going to get to see it on a 50" tv as it happens, is that not cool? We get to see her face, her tiny little body, and get a real sense of who she is! BTW, we found out there may be a chance she is a "he." So, if that happens, we're all in for a surprise. I'll post the pics this weekend of course.
Since we're making some changes around the house to accomodate our little one, we're pretty busy. Nothing major of course, but still necessary. We downsized the living rm (entertainment cntr & desk) which is something I've wanted to do for a WHILE! Plus, we had to make room for MAtt's valentine's day present...a 42" LCD! We rearranged our bedroom for her crib which is a cute sleigh style 4-in one combo that will grow with her (thanks Dad). Kam will stay in our room for a while (prob about 6 mos), then she'll move into the girls' room.
We gave Ashley the choice of her own room, but she said she wanted to keep the playroom. She just asked if she could have the "top bed" & if we could repaint their bedroom with a Disney Princess theme. Mady wants Little Mermaid, Ashley wants "all the other princesses." I guess that's not too much to ask. We even found "baby princesses" for Kamrynn when she moves in!
I'll be sad to see the monkeys & giraffes go this summer...all that hard work, but it shows me how they're growing up & making their own choices. Plus, they'll love helping us paint and decorate! I LOVE IT! We'll just have to make sure we have pictures to put in their albums before we start.
Ashley & Mady both know they'll have their own rooms in the next two years when we build our new home, so its not a big deal. They've already picked out which one will be theirs & everything! The they love to stare at the house plan & say "that's my room" "that's your room" "that's baby Kamrynn's room" and "that's going to be where we play!
I think we're slowly getting to a point of calmness around here. Just in time for a tiny one to throw that all out the window, right? LOL
So, I'll catch ya later everyone...same bat time, same bat channel!
Last week was very busy, but interesting.
We met w/Ash's counselor & I am happy to say that she is coming along quite well in her confidence. She feels that Ashley is getting better at expressing her feelings instead of holding them in, she is becoming more independent, and making great strides toward being completely comfortable with making her OWN choices. As far as her mother goes, her counselor feels Matt should give her only the information required in the order until she chooses to cooperate like an equal parent in Ashley's life in ALL respects.
She feels sad that Ashley is being punished by not getting to participate on "her" time. She is also concerned about some statements that were recently made by Ashley. Apparently, she overheard her mother saying that she wished Matt would be shot at work & that a stranger would kill me, Mady & the baby. WOW, what a depraved soul! As much as I dislike her, I would never wish her child harm. That is completely unexceptable. Anyway, now Ashley is afraid every time Matt goes to work. We're working on it by letting her call him right before bed & any time she wakes up during the night.
I don't know why her mother thinks Ashley is so unhappy. Then again, maybe it makes her feel better about the situation. I guess we'll never know. Ashley is such a happy girl in all that she does. I wish that she could see that without all the drama, Ashley could be even happier. I mean, wouldn't it be nice if she could feel that she could love both parents without feeling like she is hurting someone? We've made her feel that on our end & it has really changed her perspective. She knows that she is welcome to talk to us about anything, no matter what.
In fact, she loves to talk about her other sister (whose name will not be used here) at her mother's house & how much she is growing. Yeah, she complains that she cries all the time (she's only about a year old & apparently teething), but we explain that she did the same thing when she was little.
Her counselor feels that we are really doing what is best for Ash by giving her the security to express her feelings about BOTH homes without fear of reprimand or redirection. No, I don't love hearing about "them" but it's what Ashley needs that is important & it really only happens on Sun?mon right after we pick her up or other mini-random Ashley moments, LOL. So, we listen & help her process her thoughts a little. Then, we simply change the subject. It is getting much easier and it really is making her transitions much easier.
Her counselor also mentioned that Ashley was bothered by how much her mother was "bugging her about Kamrynn." GEEZ! Come on, can we not have anything that she doesn't interfere with? Yeah, we did ask Ashley not to tell her about OUR baby until we were ready. I don't think there is anything wrong in that. Matt & I wanted to tell our family & friends first. As his ex, she is neither of those two categories. She is the last person that has the right to know. Why should we feel obligated to tell her? Especially after her intrusion and feeling of entitlement with our miscarriage last May. Why she would question a 5 yr old until she cries is beyond me. She could have just asked us if she were that curious. Then again, obviously, when I posted it on myspace it was public knowledge.
Anyway, she also let us know that the craziness on the mother's end will probably get worse before it gets better (of course) because she will try to amp it up when we don't react. Let's hope we can stand our ground.
Enough of that...
Matt & I helped out with Ashley's kindergarten "Spring Madness" day. They explored Paper & Wood. Each of the four classes had a different theme & stations. I got "folding paper into cups & bunnies" while Matt was SUPER LUCKY and got to help them fold 6 different types of paper in half and in half again and again until they couldn't fold it anymore. LOL!!! I made over 70 cups & 70 bunnies during the day, but it was so worth it! It was fun to watch these little brains be amazed that a square piece of paper could be a cup or even a bunny! BTW, I NEVER want to see another paper bunny in my life! J/K
On the baby front...Kamrynn is oh so active! Wow, Mady wasn't ever this wiggly. I love it & yet, I would love a good night's sleep sometime, LOL. I guess that's what naps are for, too bad I have a 3 and a half year old too! Ashley & Mady are waiting intently for their baby sister.
We go for a 4-D ultrasound this Friday & I can't wait! Matt & I will be in one room with the ultrasound tech, while the girls, Angie, my lil sis Becca, my lil bro Robby & his gf are all going to get to see it on a 50" tv as it happens, is that not cool? We get to see her face, her tiny little body, and get a real sense of who she is! BTW, we found out there may be a chance she is a "he." So, if that happens, we're all in for a surprise. I'll post the pics this weekend of course.
Since we're making some changes around the house to accomodate our little one, we're pretty busy. Nothing major of course, but still necessary. We downsized the living rm (entertainment cntr & desk) which is something I've wanted to do for a WHILE! Plus, we had to make room for MAtt's valentine's day present...a 42" LCD! We rearranged our bedroom for her crib which is a cute sleigh style 4-in one combo that will grow with her (thanks Dad). Kam will stay in our room for a while (prob about 6 mos), then she'll move into the girls' room.
We gave Ashley the choice of her own room, but she said she wanted to keep the playroom. She just asked if she could have the "top bed" & if we could repaint their bedroom with a Disney Princess theme. Mady wants Little Mermaid, Ashley wants "all the other princesses." I guess that's not too much to ask. We even found "baby princesses" for Kamrynn when she moves in!
I'll be sad to see the monkeys & giraffes go this summer...all that hard work, but it shows me how they're growing up & making their own choices. Plus, they'll love helping us paint and decorate! I LOVE IT! We'll just have to make sure we have pictures to put in their albums before we start.
Ashley & Mady both know they'll have their own rooms in the next two years when we build our new home, so its not a big deal. They've already picked out which one will be theirs & everything! The they love to stare at the house plan & say "that's my room" "that's your room" "that's baby Kamrynn's room" and "that's going to be where we play!
I think we're slowly getting to a point of calmness around here. Just in time for a tiny one to throw that all out the window, right? LOL
So, I'll catch ya later everyone...same bat time, same bat channel!
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
LEPRECHAUNS!
YAY! The Leprechaun trap is finished & works great! I wonder if they'll catch one today, LOL. The pics are up & you have to check them out. We had a BLAST making it. We all helped, including Matt's parents & brother, so it truly was a family project. Matt & Monster took it in yesterday morning & she wouldn't let any of her friends near it. She'd say "ok guys, you can look but I have to show you how it works!"
Matt & his dad rigged it like the game mousetrap!!! There's a wire attatched to a gold weight. When the Leprechaun pulls the gold, it trips a wire that pulls out a stopper. The stopper releases the marble which goes down through a hose & through a rainbow PVC pipe. It snaps a mousetrap (safeguarded with catch hooks so tiny fingers don't get caught in it) which pulls a stick & catches the leprechaun in a box!
OMGosh, it was HILLARIOUS to watch them try to get it to work. I helped them figure out a few "logistical problems" but mostly, I worked on the creative design part. Monster used power tools, helped spray paint, wrote the words, and did a LOT of work herself! Even Mady helped by putting Shamrock stickers ALL over it.
While the "boys" & Ash were doing the mechanics, I showed Angie (Matt's Mom) how to play Wii Sports. I thought I was going to have to pry her away! I think the Wii is really going to be a fun family activity. We even had Larry (Matt's Dad) playing before the end of the day!!!
I am so thankful for our family. I wouldn't trade them for the world!
BTW...the girls' baseball Opening Day will be March 28 at Pleasant Garden Community Center! Let me know if ya wanna come out & watch...I'll send you the times!
Matt & his dad rigged it like the game mousetrap!!! There's a wire attatched to a gold weight. When the Leprechaun pulls the gold, it trips a wire that pulls out a stopper. The stopper releases the marble which goes down through a hose & through a rainbow PVC pipe. It snaps a mousetrap (safeguarded with catch hooks so tiny fingers don't get caught in it) which pulls a stick & catches the leprechaun in a box!
OMGosh, it was HILLARIOUS to watch them try to get it to work. I helped them figure out a few "logistical problems" but mostly, I worked on the creative design part. Monster used power tools, helped spray paint, wrote the words, and did a LOT of work herself! Even Mady helped by putting Shamrock stickers ALL over it.
While the "boys" & Ash were doing the mechanics, I showed Angie (Matt's Mom) how to play Wii Sports. I thought I was going to have to pry her away! I think the Wii is really going to be a fun family activity. We even had Larry (Matt's Dad) playing before the end of the day!!!
I am so thankful for our family. I wouldn't trade them for the world!
BTW...the girls' baseball Opening Day will be March 28 at Pleasant Garden Community Center! Let me know if ya wanna come out & watch...I'll send you the times!
Monday, March 16, 2009
Sad for you.
It's so sad to see that "HRC" has to try to tear me down to make herself feel better. Really. Thanks to my special friend for keeping me in the loop. Did you guys know that I am fat & ugly? WOW, thanks for letting me know. I am pregnant, what's your excuse? As to the ugly, well, God made me in his image, so what are you trying to say? My daughters & husband tell me every day how beautiful I am. I trust their judgement much more than yours.
Well, anyway...now that its out of my system, let's take it out of my hands...
Dear Lord, please help her to find the inner peace that only you offer. Open her eyes to see your blessings as you designed them, not just as she desires them to be. Bless her family, her home, and all that she encounters. Help her in her daily walk with you to grow and get past the hurt and anger that is tearing apart her soul.
Help me to see past all the wrongs and accept your will. I know that you have our lives in your hands at all times. Help me to let go of the little things as I see the whole picture you've painted before me. Thank you for reminding me daily of our gifts you have given. These things I ask of you in your son's name. Amen
Well, anyway...now that its out of my system, let's take it out of my hands...
Dear Lord, please help her to find the inner peace that only you offer. Open her eyes to see your blessings as you designed them, not just as she desires them to be. Bless her family, her home, and all that she encounters. Help her in her daily walk with you to grow and get past the hurt and anger that is tearing apart her soul.
Help me to see past all the wrongs and accept your will. I know that you have our lives in your hands at all times. Help me to let go of the little things as I see the whole picture you've painted before me. Thank you for reminding me daily of our gifts you have given. These things I ask of you in your son's name. Amen
Monday, March 9, 2009
Freedom!
I've been doing this for 5 years & I JUST YESTERDAY finally removed her completely. When Matt & I first got together, he was only 21 & Monster was only 6 mos. old. HRC had never let him be a parent (except when SHE wanted to do something), so he had no clue what he was doing. She also THOUGHT she had his (excuse the expression) "balls in a sling." She would hold Monster over his head EVERY time he breathed wrong.
Anyone who knows my background with kids knows that I just naturally fell into the role of "mom." I couldn't ever dream of doing to him what she was, so I made SURE that he saw his daughter when he was supposed to & as soon as we had enough amo, went to court & won!
I have been SO emotionally & physically invested, but have realized that he is now 27, we have a 3 1/2 yr old child together & one on the way, and he is a police officer. If he doesn't know how to be a parent & deal with her crazyiness by now, we're in trouble, LOL.
So, he & I talked about our situation. He's always done most of the "work" with her, but I've made sure to block her (and all the other crazies on her end) emails completely. We decided that I only need to check the Yahoo! group messages if he is unavailable & something is time sensitive. She lives 3 hours away & it isn't like we'll run into each other every day or anything like that, so I hope I've pretty much removed her from my "inner sanctum" & can deal with her through Matt from now on. The only thing he & I have to talk about concerning her is Monster & that will be limited because our order is crystal clear!
Monster is seeing her counselor today (THANK GOD for that woman). I really think she would be an emotional wreck without her. We'll be setting up an appointment for just us to talk about how to make the best of the situation we now have, as bad as it may seem I know there HAS to be a way to make it work.
On another note, it was so great to have Monster LITERALLY run into my arms when we picked her up yesterday & hug me so tight! She almost knocked me over. Its THOSE moments that make it all worthwhile. All the other craziness melts away & I remember I don't care how crazy her mother gets, what stunts she tries to pull, or even about the empty threats she makes. This is all what we make it & I plan on having a GREAT life! Anyone want to join me? LOL
I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!
Anyone who knows my background with kids knows that I just naturally fell into the role of "mom." I couldn't ever dream of doing to him what she was, so I made SURE that he saw his daughter when he was supposed to & as soon as we had enough amo, went to court & won!
I have been SO emotionally & physically invested, but have realized that he is now 27, we have a 3 1/2 yr old child together & one on the way, and he is a police officer. If he doesn't know how to be a parent & deal with her crazyiness by now, we're in trouble, LOL.
So, he & I talked about our situation. He's always done most of the "work" with her, but I've made sure to block her (and all the other crazies on her end) emails completely. We decided that I only need to check the Yahoo! group messages if he is unavailable & something is time sensitive. She lives 3 hours away & it isn't like we'll run into each other every day or anything like that, so I hope I've pretty much removed her from my "inner sanctum" & can deal with her through Matt from now on. The only thing he & I have to talk about concerning her is Monster & that will be limited because our order is crystal clear!
Monster is seeing her counselor today (THANK GOD for that woman). I really think she would be an emotional wreck without her. We'll be setting up an appointment for just us to talk about how to make the best of the situation we now have, as bad as it may seem I know there HAS to be a way to make it work.
On another note, it was so great to have Monster LITERALLY run into my arms when we picked her up yesterday & hug me so tight! She almost knocked me over. Its THOSE moments that make it all worthwhile. All the other craziness melts away & I remember I don't care how crazy her mother gets, what stunts she tries to pull, or even about the empty threats she makes. This is all what we make it & I plan on having a GREAT life! Anyone want to join me? LOL
I LOVE YOU GUYS!!!
Sunday, March 8, 2009
Observations & Changes
So, as you can tell, I have fixed my page now. Not sure what the issue with the blogs & comments, but its all gravy now, LOL.
OMGosh! Matt & I are SO sick & tired of "Her Royal Craziness." He's been doing a great job of keeping me out of it (THANKS BABY I LOVE YOU SO MUCH). But lately, the site they use to communicate has been crashing & Matt's been using my AOL account for email purposes. Yes, Matt has email addys but he blocked both her & her husband a while back (and he only checks his email when I remind him, LOL). Well, anyway, every time I signed on AOL, I was bombarded with her emails & had to save them for when he was available to read & respond to them. Sometimes, he would even hit "send later" so that she wouldn't get them until he was at work & he wouldn't have to repsond! EVIL LITTLE MONKEY, LOL!!!
Ok, so ummm...NO. I want to make sure Matt receives the info he needs, but I am not going to deal with her bull anymore. So, to take care of that issue, I have blocked her email, her husband's, and even her mom's (just for safe measure). Isn't AOL wonderful to have such customizable SPAM filters so that I don't even have to know anything was sent! It just deletes it befoe it hits my inbox!!!
Matt wrote them both an email & told them they could use the custody planner site (when it isn't having issues) or the Yahoo! Group we set up to communicate anything Ashley related. Can we say YAY ME for totally removing her from my personal life! (well, I am sure she is still checking me here, but that's fine) She wants ME to be uninvolved, but is now forwarding ALL her emails to her husband to "edit" before she reads them! CRACK ME UP! How precious is that, she can't even handle what she dishes out.
But anyway, after the most recent dramafest, Matt's decided to give her what she wants...the ability to focus on her other child & only worry about Monster 4 days a month. She seriously told him that HE has to deal with any issues that Ashley has from now on, so he's going to. Of course, he'll continue to put Monster's activities & their dates/times/locations on the shared calendar because he's required to. All the extra stuff that we try to include her on is out the window. When Monster lost her tooth & we called her to let Monster tell her. Right thing to do? We thought so. Instead she said we were rubbing it in her face. Mosnter said "she wasn't even excited a little bit." HOW SAD IS THAT?
Well, all of this weekend's lovlineness stems from her freaking out & starting a downward spiral (again). This time, about GS COOKIE MONEY & RAFFLE TICKETS! Seriously? OMGosh! Great job on picking something to make a big deal. She was supposed to bring them Friday & left them at her house 3 hours away. The cookie money is taken care of at this point, but we have to sell ALL 10 raffle tickets by next Saturday and she's had them for three weeks. (LET ME KNOW IF YOU'D LIKE TO HELP HER TEAM OUT)
She hasn't sold even ONE but Matt is supposed to say "that's ok" and sell them IF she even overnights them like she said she would! (btw, what kind of parent or grandparent can't even buy ONE raffle ticket or ONE chocolate bar for a fundraiser, WOW!!!) So, now she is making it a point that she will not do fundraising anymore. CONGRATULATIONS ON TAKING ANOTHER STEP BACK FROM BEING AN ACTIVE PARENT! QUIT CRYING ABOUT NOT BEING INVOLVED WHEN YOU ARE CHOOSING TO DISENGAGE!
She also thinks that she can dictate to Matt that he can't come to Monster's activities on "her time." Um, I don't remember that being in the order. If it were, she wouldn't be allowed to go on field trips, go to her dance recital, et cetera because they are all during "his time." Right now, she's saying that Monster won't attend activities on "her time" if Matt is there. Which, of course, we can't do anything about, but oh well.
It's really so sad that she still thinks Monster is a toy that she can take away when Matt "misbehaves." But guess what! Ashley is a person & she can't hold that over his head anymore. The Judge made sure that wouldn't happen again. I am so glad that its all over, but at the same time it never will be. At least not until she can let it all go & make the choices that are best for Monster.
I just don't see how keeping Monster from activities on her time could affect us. We've already paid for them, we don't get penalized, and it also saves us having to deal with her & having to pretend to get along in front of Monster. So, the only one that is getting hurt is Monster. Ya know, I can't wait until Monster is old enough to really understand what is going on. She'll be able to read ALL the emails, court docs, and everything else. It will all be so much clearer to her who had her best interest in mind & who was being vindictive.
Yes, I know you're reading this & no, I don't really care, obviously. Yes, we should all get along for Monster's sake, but I am done being fake in front of her. Yes, I will be cordial when necessary, but I will no longer engage in meaningless conversations that get us nowhere. I am a very happy person & I refuse to let you change that. So, when you are at an activity/event with us, please find your own space away from us, ESPECIALLY my children. I WILL NOT let your negativity affect them. It already affects Monster enough. As always, she can come to you on our time to say hello & goodbye or take any pictures. The same respect on your part would be wonderful. If not, well, she'll understand soon enough.
THANKS EVERYONE!!!
OMGosh! Matt & I are SO sick & tired of "Her Royal Craziness." He's been doing a great job of keeping me out of it (THANKS BABY I LOVE YOU SO MUCH). But lately, the site they use to communicate has been crashing & Matt's been using my AOL account for email purposes. Yes, Matt has email addys but he blocked both her & her husband a while back (and he only checks his email when I remind him, LOL). Well, anyway, every time I signed on AOL, I was bombarded with her emails & had to save them for when he was available to read & respond to them. Sometimes, he would even hit "send later" so that she wouldn't get them until he was at work & he wouldn't have to repsond! EVIL LITTLE MONKEY, LOL!!!
Ok, so ummm...NO. I want to make sure Matt receives the info he needs, but I am not going to deal with her bull anymore. So, to take care of that issue, I have blocked her email, her husband's, and even her mom's (just for safe measure). Isn't AOL wonderful to have such customizable SPAM filters so that I don't even have to know anything was sent! It just deletes it befoe it hits my inbox!!!
Matt wrote them both an email & told them they could use the custody planner site (when it isn't having issues) or the Yahoo! Group we set up to communicate anything Ashley related. Can we say YAY ME for totally removing her from my personal life! (well, I am sure she is still checking me here, but that's fine) She wants ME to be uninvolved, but is now forwarding ALL her emails to her husband to "edit" before she reads them! CRACK ME UP! How precious is that, she can't even handle what she dishes out.
But anyway, after the most recent dramafest, Matt's decided to give her what she wants...the ability to focus on her other child & only worry about Monster 4 days a month. She seriously told him that HE has to deal with any issues that Ashley has from now on, so he's going to. Of course, he'll continue to put Monster's activities & their dates/times/locations on the shared calendar because he's required to. All the extra stuff that we try to include her on is out the window. When Monster lost her tooth & we called her to let Monster tell her. Right thing to do? We thought so. Instead she said we were rubbing it in her face. Mosnter said "she wasn't even excited a little bit." HOW SAD IS THAT?
Well, all of this weekend's lovlineness stems from her freaking out & starting a downward spiral (again). This time, about GS COOKIE MONEY & RAFFLE TICKETS! Seriously? OMGosh! Great job on picking something to make a big deal. She was supposed to bring them Friday & left them at her house 3 hours away. The cookie money is taken care of at this point, but we have to sell ALL 10 raffle tickets by next Saturday and she's had them for three weeks. (LET ME KNOW IF YOU'D LIKE TO HELP HER TEAM OUT)
She hasn't sold even ONE but Matt is supposed to say "that's ok" and sell them IF she even overnights them like she said she would! (btw, what kind of parent or grandparent can't even buy ONE raffle ticket or ONE chocolate bar for a fundraiser, WOW!!!) So, now she is making it a point that she will not do fundraising anymore. CONGRATULATIONS ON TAKING ANOTHER STEP BACK FROM BEING AN ACTIVE PARENT! QUIT CRYING ABOUT NOT BEING INVOLVED WHEN YOU ARE CHOOSING TO DISENGAGE!
She also thinks that she can dictate to Matt that he can't come to Monster's activities on "her time." Um, I don't remember that being in the order. If it were, she wouldn't be allowed to go on field trips, go to her dance recital, et cetera because they are all during "his time." Right now, she's saying that Monster won't attend activities on "her time" if Matt is there. Which, of course, we can't do anything about, but oh well.
It's really so sad that she still thinks Monster is a toy that she can take away when Matt "misbehaves." But guess what! Ashley is a person & she can't hold that over his head anymore. The Judge made sure that wouldn't happen again. I am so glad that its all over, but at the same time it never will be. At least not until she can let it all go & make the choices that are best for Monster.
I just don't see how keeping Monster from activities on her time could affect us. We've already paid for them, we don't get penalized, and it also saves us having to deal with her & having to pretend to get along in front of Monster. So, the only one that is getting hurt is Monster. Ya know, I can't wait until Monster is old enough to really understand what is going on. She'll be able to read ALL the emails, court docs, and everything else. It will all be so much clearer to her who had her best interest in mind & who was being vindictive.
Yes, I know you're reading this & no, I don't really care, obviously. Yes, we should all get along for Monster's sake, but I am done being fake in front of her. Yes, I will be cordial when necessary, but I will no longer engage in meaningless conversations that get us nowhere. I am a very happy person & I refuse to let you change that. So, when you are at an activity/event with us, please find your own space away from us, ESPECIALLY my children. I WILL NOT let your negativity affect them. It already affects Monster enough. As always, she can come to you on our time to say hello & goodbye or take any pictures. The same respect on your part would be wonderful. If not, well, she'll understand soon enough.
THANKS EVERYONE!!!
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Updates & more...
Hey everyone! Life's been SO busy lately, but its all worth it! School was cancelled Mon & Tues because of the weather & we've been playing in the snow enjoying the last few days of Monster 's "Spring Break" (they have to make up the 4 snow days).
Matt & I have been spending more time with each other, focusing on US and forgetting about the stressors that life's thrown at us for a while. I am happy to say that we are looking forward to this summer when we'll celebrate our 4 year wedding anniversary! It's hard to believe we'll have been together 6 years this November!!! He's still working nights patrolling the streets of Ramseur. I am working my Mary Kay business & substitute teaching @ Grays Chapel.
Monster's doing great in school. She had some trouble understanding rhyming words (very funny stories to go with that), but now that it's clicked she's off & running again. There have been a few discipline issues her counselor feels is stemming from wanting some extra attention the last few weeks (not from us), but that's all under control too! THANK YOU to everyone that purchased Girl Scout Cookies. She has sold OVER 300 BOXES & can't wait to get her build-a-bear gift certificate & all her other prizes! She is loving Daisies & all that she is learning (me too!).
Her dance class is now getting boring for her, so I don't think we'll do it again next year. She is excited about doing a tap song to "Walk the Dinosaur" and LOVES her ballet costume though, so its ok. Her progress in AWANA & her ability to memorize her verses astounds me! When her friend's father passed away recently, Ashley prayed for her & her family at church in front of the AWANA group & I almost cried. She is growing up so quickly & I am proud to see her journey with Christ everyday. She'll have her first t-ball practice this Saturday & we are so excited!
Monkey...WOW, where to begin! She's definitely not Ashley, LOL. They love to be together, but have such different personalities. I love to see them play, it makes all the drama worth enduring. She is having a great time in Cubbies, learning a little more about how a tiny Christian can help friends, family, and others. She has "watered down" verses to memorize, but enjoys learning them. In fact, she will remind me that she has to learn it (especially if Monster is working on hers).
She is still super excited about dance & even has the dances memorized WITHOUT THE MUSIC! She'll do them at home & sing the songs herself & I can't wait for the recital on June 6. She'll either do it in front of everyone or just stand there...hmmm, we'll see. She had her first tball practice last Saturday. Well, technincally it became a parent meeting because of the rain, but she THINKS it was practice, LOL. Her first real one will be this week. It is the cutest thing to see her in her helmet & tiny bat. She's still only 36" tall & wears 2-3T clothes. We bought XXS pants & I still had to hem them!
Kamrynn is growing everyday, of course. The girls love to sit & feel her kick at night. We even have one of those dopplers w/headphones so we can hear her kick. The best is recording it at night (when she's most active) & playing it for the girls in the moring on our surround sound. It sounds like we're in there with her!!! Ashley's favorite is the most recent "hiccup episode." Madyson asks our Midwife at every visit if we can take the baby home yet. We are so blessed that our girls are excited & not dreading our newest family member! (check out the COMING SOON blog for more Kamrynn info & due date tickers)
Also, court was "over" November 2007, but then she appealed. That was denied in October this past year, but we had to wait for our evidence to be released. We FINALLY got it all back today (which included our family album). So, we're spending Thursday evening (our only free evening that Matt is off) going through it & adding pics to it from Oct 2007 through now! I also finished the baby book for Miss Kamrynn & we'll be adding the ultrasound pics, as well those from the Birth Center visits & the girls making their shirts! Ash & Mady can't wait!
WOO HOO SCRAPBOOKING SECTION HERE I COME!!!
I hope everyone has a great week & don't forget to set your clocks ahead before you go to sleep Saturday!!!
Matt & I have been spending more time with each other, focusing on US and forgetting about the stressors that life's thrown at us for a while. I am happy to say that we are looking forward to this summer when we'll celebrate our 4 year wedding anniversary! It's hard to believe we'll have been together 6 years this November!!! He's still working nights patrolling the streets of Ramseur. I am working my Mary Kay business & substitute teaching @ Grays Chapel.
Monster's doing great in school. She had some trouble understanding rhyming words (very funny stories to go with that), but now that it's clicked she's off & running again. There have been a few discipline issues her counselor feels is stemming from wanting some extra attention the last few weeks (not from us), but that's all under control too! THANK YOU to everyone that purchased Girl Scout Cookies. She has sold OVER 300 BOXES & can't wait to get her build-a-bear gift certificate & all her other prizes! She is loving Daisies & all that she is learning (me too!).
Her dance class is now getting boring for her, so I don't think we'll do it again next year. She is excited about doing a tap song to "Walk the Dinosaur" and LOVES her ballet costume though, so its ok. Her progress in AWANA & her ability to memorize her verses astounds me! When her friend's father passed away recently, Ashley prayed for her & her family at church in front of the AWANA group & I almost cried. She is growing up so quickly & I am proud to see her journey with Christ everyday. She'll have her first t-ball practice this Saturday & we are so excited!
Monkey...WOW, where to begin! She's definitely not Ashley, LOL. They love to be together, but have such different personalities. I love to see them play, it makes all the drama worth enduring. She is having a great time in Cubbies, learning a little more about how a tiny Christian can help friends, family, and others. She has "watered down" verses to memorize, but enjoys learning them. In fact, she will remind me that she has to learn it (especially if Monster is working on hers).
She is still super excited about dance & even has the dances memorized WITHOUT THE MUSIC! She'll do them at home & sing the songs herself & I can't wait for the recital on June 6. She'll either do it in front of everyone or just stand there...hmmm, we'll see. She had her first tball practice last Saturday. Well, technincally it became a parent meeting because of the rain, but she THINKS it was practice, LOL. Her first real one will be this week. It is the cutest thing to see her in her helmet & tiny bat. She's still only 36" tall & wears 2-3T clothes. We bought XXS pants & I still had to hem them!
Kamrynn is growing everyday, of course. The girls love to sit & feel her kick at night. We even have one of those dopplers w/headphones so we can hear her kick. The best is recording it at night (when she's most active) & playing it for the girls in the moring on our surround sound. It sounds like we're in there with her!!! Ashley's favorite is the most recent "hiccup episode." Madyson asks our Midwife at every visit if we can take the baby home yet. We are so blessed that our girls are excited & not dreading our newest family member! (check out the COMING SOON blog for more Kamrynn info & due date tickers)
Also, court was "over" November 2007, but then she appealed. That was denied in October this past year, but we had to wait for our evidence to be released. We FINALLY got it all back today (which included our family album). So, we're spending Thursday evening (our only free evening that Matt is off) going through it & adding pics to it from Oct 2007 through now! I also finished the baby book for Miss Kamrynn & we'll be adding the ultrasound pics, as well those from the Birth Center visits & the girls making their shirts! Ash & Mady can't wait!
WOO HOO SCRAPBOOKING SECTION HERE I COME!!!
I hope everyone has a great week & don't forget to set your clocks ahead before you go to sleep Saturday!!!
Tuesday, January 20, 2009
Drum Roll Please!
We're having a GIRL!!!
Yep, another girl. Baby Beast will be joining our family soon, but not soon enough! Monster & Monkey were a little upset that it was not a baby brother (probably our fault). Monkey actually cried in the ultrasound room saying "but I want a baby brother not a baby sister." Monky was much more ok with the idea after we told her she could teach her how to play Little Mermaid! Monster was so great...she told Monkey that she'll love having a baby sister because Monkey is her favorite already & Baby Beast will be her other favorite!
Both girls were already kissing my tummy & saying "I love you Beast" before we left! OMGosh, I almost cried!!! Of course, they helped us pick out the names. Yes, we were hoping for a boy, but we're all getting used to the idea of another girl running around the house in a princess gown!
After the ultrasound we left for a GREAT beach trip to Oak Island! We went out on the beach 3 times. Not too bad for January, huh? We even took the girls out at 6:30 in the am to look for sand dollars since they were both up anyway. After about fifteen minutes of freezing my face off, of course we left. We also went to the Aquarium, OKI Lighthouse, and spent some time w/Matt's cousin.
Before we left Monday, it was about 50 degrees. The girls actually took their shoes off, rolled up their jeans and played in the surf!!! OMG, it was SOOO fun. We wanted to get hermit crabs, but NO ONE had them...not to mention most of the WINGS were closed anyway! I guess they aren't as popular in the winter. So, we'll get them when we get back, probably a LOT cheaper! Monster picked out "big girl" souvenirs (like pencils & a jewelry box) wherever we went. She didn't want stuffed animals or water squirting puffer fish like Monkey, LOL!!!
We hated to leave a day early, but we really didn't want to drive home in the snow Tuesday. BTW, how cool is it that we were playing in the sand & surf one day then making snowmen (even if they were only 6 in. tall) the next? The girls were AMAZED!!! I can't wait to take Baby Beast w/us this summer!
Yep, another girl. Baby Beast will be joining our family soon, but not soon enough! Monster & Monkey were a little upset that it was not a baby brother (probably our fault). Monkey actually cried in the ultrasound room saying "but I want a baby brother not a baby sister." Monky was much more ok with the idea after we told her she could teach her how to play Little Mermaid! Monster was so great...she told Monkey that she'll love having a baby sister because Monkey is her favorite already & Baby Beast will be her other favorite!
Both girls were already kissing my tummy & saying "I love you Beast" before we left! OMGosh, I almost cried!!! Of course, they helped us pick out the names. Yes, we were hoping for a boy, but we're all getting used to the idea of another girl running around the house in a princess gown!
After the ultrasound we left for a GREAT beach trip to Oak Island! We went out on the beach 3 times. Not too bad for January, huh? We even took the girls out at 6:30 in the am to look for sand dollars since they were both up anyway. After about fifteen minutes of freezing my face off, of course we left. We also went to the Aquarium, OKI Lighthouse, and spent some time w/Matt's cousin.
Before we left Monday, it was about 50 degrees. The girls actually took their shoes off, rolled up their jeans and played in the surf!!! OMG, it was SOOO fun. We wanted to get hermit crabs, but NO ONE had them...not to mention most of the WINGS were closed anyway! I guess they aren't as popular in the winter. So, we'll get them when we get back, probably a LOT cheaper! Monster picked out "big girl" souvenirs (like pencils & a jewelry box) wherever we went. She didn't want stuffed animals or water squirting puffer fish like Monkey, LOL!!!
We hated to leave a day early, but we really didn't want to drive home in the snow Tuesday. BTW, how cool is it that we were playing in the sand & surf one day then making snowmen (even if they were only 6 in. tall) the next? The girls were AMAZED!!! I can't wait to take Baby Beast w/us this summer!
Friday, January 9, 2009
HRC Moment
So, we all know Monster's mom (Her Royal Craziness) gets her 2 weekends a month...this is supposed to be one of them. Before we left our house to go to the meeting place, I HONESTLY looked at Matt & said "I have a feeling she isn't going to be there." Well, I am not psychic by any means, but ya know how those gut feelings work...
Well, we show up at the meeting place (an hour drive for us, 1 and a half for her) & wait 20 minutes...still no show from HRC. So, Matt called her at home to leave her a message (she has no cell phone & he has to be to work at 6:30, so we couldn't wait any longer) here's how it went:
Matt: HRC, I'm @ meeting place, why are you still at home?
HRC: It's not my weekend
Matt: Yes it is.
HRC: Well, I guess I totally f*ing forgot. What do we do?"
Matt: I have to be at work & Kandice has plans tonight. Can you get your mom (who lives in our town) to pick Monster up at the PD (where he works) at 6:30 & bring her to you?
HRC: I can try.
Well, a few minutes later she calls back & said her mom can't pick up Monster at that time/place, but she can pick her up 20 miles away from the PD at the same time. Well, obviously that posed a problem. He told her that wouldn't work & she started screaming at him & cussing. HA HA, that went over like a lead brick. We refused to answer her calls for the next half hour of our drive. It wasn't like we could do anything until we got back to town anyway.
So, she left 5 CRAZY messages threatening us with police & all that drama, saying we were denying her visitation. She actually DEMANDED (used the word & everything) that he call her in 10 minutes OR ELSE. What I wanted to say was..."OK, UM DUH, YOU FORGOT YOUR CHILD YOU CRAZY WOMAN & WE ARE TRYING TO ARRANGE ANOTHER WAY FOR YOU TO STILL HAVE TIME WITH HER & YOU ARE GOING TO TRY TO DICTATE TO US WHERE WE WILL MEET YOUR MOTHER?! As Dr. Phil says "How's that working for you?" Next time, we won't bother calling you!!!"
Anyway, we know there is NOTHING a police officer/deputy can do except say pretty please. Matt called the grandma (her mom) & explained the situation. GUESS WHAT! She agreed to meet us at the PD at the requested time...AMAZING RIGHT?
Meanwhile, poor Monster is crying & wondering why HRC forgot her. (Phone was on speaker because it was broken) Now she has to be in a car for 5 hours straight, because the grandma is bringing her to the meeting place where HRC will pick her up. Poor baby, I felt so bad for her. Just another thing for her counselor to deal with Monday I guess. Hmmm...for someone who hates us for "stealing her child" (HA), she sure did make a BIG mistake!!! If I was only able to see MY child for 4 days a month, you better believe I would know when those days were!!!
So, anyway, thanks for reading, have a great weekend everyone!
Well, we show up at the meeting place (an hour drive for us, 1 and a half for her) & wait 20 minutes...still no show from HRC. So, Matt called her at home to leave her a message (she has no cell phone & he has to be to work at 6:30, so we couldn't wait any longer) here's how it went:
Matt: HRC, I'm @ meeting place, why are you still at home?
HRC: It's not my weekend
Matt: Yes it is.
HRC: Well, I guess I totally f*ing forgot. What do we do?"
Matt: I have to be at work & Kandice has plans tonight. Can you get your mom (who lives in our town) to pick Monster up at the PD (where he works) at 6:30 & bring her to you?
HRC: I can try.
Well, a few minutes later she calls back & said her mom can't pick up Monster at that time/place, but she can pick her up 20 miles away from the PD at the same time. Well, obviously that posed a problem. He told her that wouldn't work & she started screaming at him & cussing. HA HA, that went over like a lead brick. We refused to answer her calls for the next half hour of our drive. It wasn't like we could do anything until we got back to town anyway.
So, she left 5 CRAZY messages threatening us with police & all that drama, saying we were denying her visitation. She actually DEMANDED (used the word & everything) that he call her in 10 minutes OR ELSE. What I wanted to say was..."OK, UM DUH, YOU FORGOT YOUR CHILD YOU CRAZY WOMAN & WE ARE TRYING TO ARRANGE ANOTHER WAY FOR YOU TO STILL HAVE TIME WITH HER & YOU ARE GOING TO TRY TO DICTATE TO US WHERE WE WILL MEET YOUR MOTHER?! As Dr. Phil says "How's that working for you?" Next time, we won't bother calling you!!!"
Anyway, we know there is NOTHING a police officer/deputy can do except say pretty please. Matt called the grandma (her mom) & explained the situation. GUESS WHAT! She agreed to meet us at the PD at the requested time...AMAZING RIGHT?
Meanwhile, poor Monster is crying & wondering why HRC forgot her. (Phone was on speaker because it was broken) Now she has to be in a car for 5 hours straight, because the grandma is bringing her to the meeting place where HRC will pick her up. Poor baby, I felt so bad for her. Just another thing for her counselor to deal with Monday I guess. Hmmm...for someone who hates us for "stealing her child" (HA), she sure did make a BIG mistake!!! If I was only able to see MY child for 4 days a month, you better believe I would know when those days were!!!
So, anyway, thanks for reading, have a great weekend everyone!
Thursday, December 18, 2008
Prayers Please!
Everyone, we need your prayers & thoughts for a bit. Apparently I have been exposed to Fifth's Disease (Parvo Virus B-19). I know, you're probably like WHAT IS THAT? So...to a normal healthy non-pregnant person, it would just be a bad virus. BUT, for me, it could mean much more serious badness.
I have to have blood tests and ultrasounds, beginning Friday. If I have contracted the virus, we will have to monitor the baby weekly to check its iron levels and joints. It could cause serious anemia in our baby & he/she may have to have a blood transfusion in utero (meaning while still in me). Worse case scenario could be a miscarriage.
There is nothing we can do, except wait & watch. Pease keep our family in your thoughts & prayers. We still haven't told the girls about the pregnancy, and we'll probably wait a little longer because of this. Thanks in advance peeps, I love you all!!!
UPDATE:
At our appt, we had our first round of bloodwork. The baby seems healthy & has a strong heartbeat. However, somehow, my glucose screening results were LOST somewhere between Labcorp and the BC last month. SOOO, long story short...I never got the call saying my glucose levels were high. Now I have to go on CHRISTMAS EVE & do a fasting 3 HOUR test!!! GRRRRRRRR!!! So, yeah...sounds fun right? Well, anyway, keep us in your thoughts & prayers. I am hoping for 5 minutes of a "normal" pregnancy at some point, LOL!
I have to have blood tests and ultrasounds, beginning Friday. If I have contracted the virus, we will have to monitor the baby weekly to check its iron levels and joints. It could cause serious anemia in our baby & he/she may have to have a blood transfusion in utero (meaning while still in me). Worse case scenario could be a miscarriage.
There is nothing we can do, except wait & watch. Pease keep our family in your thoughts & prayers. We still haven't told the girls about the pregnancy, and we'll probably wait a little longer because of this. Thanks in advance peeps, I love you all!!!
UPDATE:
At our appt, we had our first round of bloodwork. The baby seems healthy & has a strong heartbeat. However, somehow, my glucose screening results were LOST somewhere between Labcorp and the BC last month. SOOO, long story short...I never got the call saying my glucose levels were high. Now I have to go on CHRISTMAS EVE & do a fasting 3 HOUR test!!! GRRRRRRRR!!! So, yeah...sounds fun right? Well, anyway, keep us in your thoughts & prayers. I am hoping for 5 minutes of a "normal" pregnancy at some point, LOL!
Friday, December 5, 2008
What's up?
Well, we've been a little busy lately...
We are SOOO happy to announce that the pregnancy is going SUPER! Yeah, I have been sick as a dog, but it could be much worse. I can't keep anything down. I have been living on cheese & crackers (and Claussen pickles, as cliche as that sounds).
We still haven't told the girls, but only because we don't want the crazy stalker chick (HRC) to know yet. We want to keep this to ourselves and enjoy it as long as possible before she sticks her big nose in. Plus, I want to see the look on her face when she finds out since she still believes our miscarriage was "karma for stealing her child."
We have our next appointment on Dec. 19 & I hope we'll be able to set up an ultrasound late Jan/early Feb for sex determination (fingers crossed for blue news). Also, we'll be doing a 4-D ultrasound in March to get a better look @ him/her.
Monster is LOVING Daisies! She is the only kindergartener, but fits in quite well. We are selling GIRL SCOUT COOKIES beginning December 21 (sorry, I can't take orders before then). She has a goal of 150 boxes, which sounds like a lot, but is very realistic. SO, don't be shy, send me your orders.
Dance class is going well for both girls. Mosnter isn't very fond of tap, but loves the other two styles. So, we'll know what NOT to do next year, LOL. Monkey loves it all, which is good because she'll be in a mixed class again next season.
AWANA is teaching them so much & it's wonderful to see their love for God grow and develop. Church was always my saving grace & I am happy to see my girls enjoying their spiritual journey as well.
Tonight is the Asheboro Christmas Parade, which the girls will be in w/dance, so come on out & join us. Next weekend we'll be heading up to WCU for Andrew's graduation. The next week, Monster has "Polar Express Day" @ school & we'll have our birth center appt before we leave to WV to visit my grandparents for a few days before Christmas. THEN SANTA COMES, YAY!!!
Hope everyone has a wonderful holiday season & happy new year!!!
We are SOOO happy to announce that the pregnancy is going SUPER! Yeah, I have been sick as a dog, but it could be much worse. I can't keep anything down. I have been living on cheese & crackers (and Claussen pickles, as cliche as that sounds).
We still haven't told the girls, but only because we don't want the crazy stalker chick (HRC) to know yet. We want to keep this to ourselves and enjoy it as long as possible before she sticks her big nose in. Plus, I want to see the look on her face when she finds out since she still believes our miscarriage was "karma for stealing her child."
We have our next appointment on Dec. 19 & I hope we'll be able to set up an ultrasound late Jan/early Feb for sex determination (fingers crossed for blue news). Also, we'll be doing a 4-D ultrasound in March to get a better look @ him/her.
Monster is LOVING Daisies! She is the only kindergartener, but fits in quite well. We are selling GIRL SCOUT COOKIES beginning December 21 (sorry, I can't take orders before then). She has a goal of 150 boxes, which sounds like a lot, but is very realistic. SO, don't be shy, send me your orders.
Dance class is going well for both girls. Mosnter isn't very fond of tap, but loves the other two styles. So, we'll know what NOT to do next year, LOL. Monkey loves it all, which is good because she'll be in a mixed class again next season.
AWANA is teaching them so much & it's wonderful to see their love for God grow and develop. Church was always my saving grace & I am happy to see my girls enjoying their spiritual journey as well.
Tonight is the Asheboro Christmas Parade, which the girls will be in w/dance, so come on out & join us. Next weekend we'll be heading up to WCU for Andrew's graduation. The next week, Monster has "Polar Express Day" @ school & we'll have our birth center appt before we leave to WV to visit my grandparents for a few days before Christmas. THEN SANTA COMES, YAY!!!
Hope everyone has a wonderful holiday season & happy new year!!!
Tuesday, November 18, 2008
Updates
Been out of touch for a few days...had to get a 50th surprise bday for my mother-in-law together. It went GREAT! Of course, we've had to lie to her for a month, but her reaction was soooo worth it!!! It almost didn't happen...I was sick for two weeks, then SHE was sick the week of the party...AAAAAAHHHH!!! She was REFUSING to go to dinner with me & a few of her friends for fear of getting us sick. SOO, we finally got her out of the house & to the party place. The girls were the first ones to yell HAPPY BIRTHDAY & SHE LOVED IT!
The girls are loving dance class & AWANAS. Mosnter is so happy in her Daisy troop. In fact, we had the Troop's Investiture ceremony last week & she is still talking about it.
We went on Monster's first field trip Friday (to the Zoo) & then had her parent-teacher conference. She is doing PERFECTLY & is right where she is supposed to be. We're still working on not talking at inappropriate times, but if that's all, I think we're doing great! She takes after me on that one. ;)
Monkey is still my little energizer bunny. I don't know how I'll keep up with her in a few months...HA!
The girls are loving dance class & AWANAS. Mosnter is so happy in her Daisy troop. In fact, we had the Troop's Investiture ceremony last week & she is still talking about it.
We went on Monster's first field trip Friday (to the Zoo) & then had her parent-teacher conference. She is doing PERFECTLY & is right where she is supposed to be. We're still working on not talking at inappropriate times, but if that's all, I think we're doing great! She takes after me on that one. ;)
Monkey is still my little energizer bunny. I don't know how I'll keep up with her in a few months...HA!
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Denied.
YAY..."Her royal craziness" did NOT get her appeal!!! IT WAS DENIED BY A UNANIMOUS DECISION!!!
We are so glad that everything is finally over so that we are able to move on with our lives. We know it isn't "over & that it will get ugly in the coming weeks/months while she deals with her own emotions, but we are ready to stand strong for Ashley's sake.
THANK YOU TO YOU ALL FOR YOUR THOUGHTS, PRAYERS, AND WELL WISHES! We are so blessed to have family & friends that have helped us through this difficult journey. Always remember that God will answer our prayers, even if not in the way we expect.
http://appellate.nccourts.org/opinions/?c=2&pdf=MjAwOC8wOC00MzAtMS5wZGY=
We are so glad that everything is finally over so that we are able to move on with our lives. We know it isn't "over & that it will get ugly in the coming weeks/months while she deals with her own emotions, but we are ready to stand strong for Ashley's sake.
THANK YOU TO YOU ALL FOR YOUR THOUGHTS, PRAYERS, AND WELL WISHES! We are so blessed to have family & friends that have helped us through this difficult journey. Always remember that God will answer our prayers, even if not in the way we expect.
http://appellate.nccourts.org/opinions/?c=2&pdf=MjAwOC8wOC00MzAtMS5wZGY=
Monday, October 27, 2008
BOO!
This weekend was a lot of fun! I am SOOO glad that I was feeling up to it!!!
We had a Pizza/Movie night w/the girls Friday night. Saturday was Boo at the Zoo & pumpkin carving. Today, we made my "super awesome yummy chili" (as Monster likes to call it, LOL) & invited my parents & litte sis Becca, as well as Matt's parents & lil bro Steven. After dinner we took the "party" outside for a bonfire & some S'Mores! It sucks we won't have Monster for Halloween, but we're making up for it this week for sure! We've got a busy week ahead & it will be GREAT, YAY!!!
We had a Pizza/Movie night w/the girls Friday night. Saturday was Boo at the Zoo & pumpkin carving. Today, we made my "super awesome yummy chili" (as Monster likes to call it, LOL) & invited my parents & litte sis Becca, as well as Matt's parents & lil bro Steven. After dinner we took the "party" outside for a bonfire & some S'Mores! It sucks we won't have Monster for Halloween, but we're making up for it this week for sure! We've got a busy week ahead & it will be GREAT, YAY!!!
Friday, October 24, 2008
I love our Atty!
So, we spoke with the atty about "her royal craziness" - her antics at Monster's school lately, the DRAMA she is trying to cause AGAIN & her appeal...
1. Matt does NOT have to allow HRC at school. He's allowed it only because he felt it was appropriate, however, if she continues to disrupt her learning environment, it will be stopped immediately.
2. We will stop the custody planner site if she continues to use the message system as a battleground. Its intention was to be a POSITIVE EFFECTIVE communication tool that minimized our need to speak with her by phone. She doesn't get that.
3. The appeal is "supposed" to be reviewed next week. It can take anywhere from a week to a year to get an answer as to whether the Appeals Court will even hear the case further...so, nothing is really decided yet, but thanks everyone for the prayers!
We love all you guys & gals (lol) that have been here & continue to support us through all this crap!
1. Matt does NOT have to allow HRC at school. He's allowed it only because he felt it was appropriate, however, if she continues to disrupt her learning environment, it will be stopped immediately.
2. We will stop the custody planner site if she continues to use the message system as a battleground. Its intention was to be a POSITIVE EFFECTIVE communication tool that minimized our need to speak with her by phone. She doesn't get that.
3. The appeal is "supposed" to be reviewed next week. It can take anywhere from a week to a year to get an answer as to whether the Appeals Court will even hear the case further...so, nothing is really decided yet, but thanks everyone for the prayers!
We love all you guys & gals (lol) that have been here & continue to support us through all this crap!
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